Devotional Thoughts 4 Real Supermodels

Don’t Give Place to Doubt

Never doubt in the dark what God told you in the light. Though you stumble, God will not let you fall–for the LORD upholds you with His hand.

God bless you,

Heart Matters

So You Want to Get Married (Part III): Married Life – Truly a Ministry

Marriage is a holy institution established by God from the beginning of creation. It came about as the result of a need that God saw in a perfect man, in a perfect world. God created everything – the sun, the moon, the stars, the earth, the atmosphere, the birds, the fish, the land animals, and Adam. Everything He made was described as “good.” Adam, who was made in the image of God, was given dominion over all the things of the earth. He named all of the creatures God made.

Although surrounded with animals that were friendly and all subject to him, there was not found a helper for Adam. None could satisfy a deeper need that Adam had. Adam was alone. The aloneness in the man was the one thing that God described in this perfect world as “NOT good.” In Genesis 2:18, we read, “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” It was the aloneness in the man that led to the creation of the woman, Eve. She was created from something that was taken from the man, a rib, and formed to perfectly meet his needs. Eve was created to fulfill the following needs:

·       Companionship

·       Helper

·       Procreator as the one who would bring forth the young

·       Nurturer

When God brought Eve to Adam, Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2: 23, 24). And so, the institution of marriage was established. It was to be between a man and a woman. It was intended to satisfy the needs for companionship, help, procreation, and nurturance. It was a relationship that was never to be broken. In the beginning, it was perfect in every way. It was pure, holy, and blessed by God.

As long as Adam and Eve lived in obedience to God, nothing marred their relationship. They loved each other perfectly. They were both very happy. They enjoyed all things together. They worked together, played together, explored the earth together, ate together, and slept together. Eve satisfied Adam completely. Physically, she was beautiful to behold. Emotionally, she was loving and lovable. Mentally, she was intellectually stimulating and could relate to the man on his level. Spiritually, they both walked with God and enjoyed His physical presence daily.

When Adam and Eve disobeyed God, sin entered their perfect world, and with it, sorrow, trouble, and death. The woman would have pain in bearing children; raising the children in the way they should go would not be without some heartache and sorrow; her desire would be to her husband who would sometimes seem distant and uncaring; her husband would rule over her and would sometimes overrule the wisdom she might bring to the table when it came to handling issues.

The man would have to work hard to provide for himself and his family – by the sweat of his brow. Getting the things he wanted out of life, achieving his goals and dreams would not be without a struggle – the thorns and thistles of life. But all of this did not change the institution of marriage, the sacredness of the marriage vow, nor the roles that the man and the woman were to fulfill in that relationship. Hence, as part of their vow, the man and the woman come together before God and a cloud of witnesses (heavenly and earthly): “for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” And what God joins together, no man or woman is to put asunder.

I believe it is safe to say that most men and women come together in marriage hoping for and expecting the best, yet knowing that problems may occur. Most desire a love relationship that “lives happily ever after.” How is this possible, especially in a sin sick world as we know it? Only by the power of God through the perfect love triangle.

Out of love and obedience to God first, the man and the woman can perfectly fulfill their marriage vows, and rightly reflect His image in the world. As they each hold on to the LORD through prayer, and study of His Word, they gain the strength and desire to love when selfishness would take control; they learn how to best meet each other’s needs as they seek wisdom from God who knows everything about us; they learn patience as they allow each other to grow at their own pace. The struggles that they face will only enrich and deepen their love as they journey through life together.

As a wife, the woman is to be a companion to her husband. She is to be a friend, lover, listener, and an encouragement to her husband. All other companionships are to take second or third place in her friendship priorities. Any friendship that would harm the relationship with her husband should be dismissed. That might mean former male or female friendships. That might mean relinquishing time with family members if that impinges upon the time desired of her from her husband.

The wife is to satisfy the needs of her husband for sexual intimacy because God has given her power over his body. She should learn how to satisfy her husband in this arena, and that comes with prayer for wisdom and desire from God, communication with her husband, and mutual sensitivity to the needs of each other. The woman should never withhold herself from her husband’s need for intimacy, as this could be used by the enemy to cause problems in the marriage (See I Cor. 7:3 – 5).

Her role as a helper could take any form, depending on the need. She may be the keeper of the home, or she may become the breadwinner, especially if illness or job loss should strike. Thus, every woman who chooses marriage should get a good education and train for skills that will be useful and enjoyable to her. The educated woman may find a need to put personal career choices on hold to accommodate the needs of her husband and children. Such might be the sacrifice a woman must make for the sake of her family.

The wife who becomes a mother fulfills her commission to be a procreator with the man and satisfies the command to multiply and replenish the earth. With children comes the need to nourish and nurture the young. This is a lifelong responsibility, and requires the ultimate self-sacrifice of both the man and the woman. Children are to be nurtured physically, mentally, and spiritually. Children are to learn of their Creator first through the teaching and example of their parents. Children are considered holy unto the LORD in the union of marriage where the parents are believers in Jesus Christ (See I Cor. 7:14).

Having said all of that, the most critical role of the married woman, though not specifically stated in the Bible, is one that I call, “restorer.” This role actually comes under the heading of helper, but bears special attention, as it is so critical to the success of a marriage. The woman who loves the LORD lives by the “What would Jesus do?” principle. She recognizes that her role in marriage is to love her husband as Christ would if He were here as her husband’s wife. She “moves over” so to speak, so that Christ can love through her. This kind of TOTAL commitment, allows her to see her husband, her children, and herself safely through to the Kingdom! The salvation of her family depends upon such a commitment, and is thus, truly a ministry.

Recognizing the power God had given to the woman to influence the man, Satan used the first woman Eve, to destroy the first man, Adam. But God used the woman to bring forth the Deliverer who would save all mankind, and restore to man the dominion he once enjoyed. Knowing this, the godly woman submits to the will of the LORD and builds her household faithfully and deliberately on the Rock, Christ Jesus. She does this by studying God’s Word, doing what It says, and holding on with confidence to the promises God has given. The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pluck it down when she takes matters into her own hands (See Proverbs 14:1). The wise woman knows that a house that is built upon a firm foundation has a better chance of standing when life happens. She knows that the rain WILL fall; the floods WILL come; the winds WILL blow and beat upon her house; the enemy WILL seek to destroy and to devour her children, her husband, her marriage, and try to steal her joy. But she knows that her house WILL stand and NOT fall WHEN it is built up in righteousness and established on the Word of God (See Matthew 7:24 – 27).

We have the example of several women in the Bible from whom we can take a few lessons when it comes to the marriage relationship. Eve married a perfect man under perfect conditions. Esther married a pagan king in a sinful nation that had no regard for God! Abigail married a fool. Sapphira played the fool in marriage. What was the key to success or lack thereof in their marriages?

When we take a look again at the love triangle, we can see schematically what happened in each marriage:

In the case of Adam and Eve, their mutual disobedience to God led to marital discord, murder of the second son by the hand of the first son, and remorse over a dysfunctional family. By the time the third son was born, the Scriptures say that “men began to call upon the name of the LORD.” So perhaps Eve was more deliberate and careful to teach her children the way of the LORD after the birth of her third son, Seth. The ultimate deliverance that came to mankind was through Seth’s lineage (See Genesis 4: 25, 26).

Esther married a pagan king who did not know the true God. He was more or less groomed to think of himself as a god. His marriage to Esther was through no choice of her own but was the result of his decree to find a virgin in his kingdom that pleased him. All physically appealing virgins in his kingdom were forcibly summoned to his court as potential candidates. The one who pleased the king was to become his queen. Esther pleased the king Ahasuerus and she became queen of Persia.

Raised by her Jewish cousin, Mordecai, Esther learned of the true God of Heaven and the value of obedience through him. In obedience to her cousin’s advice, Esther concealed her Jewish heritage so that it would go well for her in this pagan kingdom. However, in the process of time, the Jewish people in that kingdom became the target for genocide and annihilation. It was at this time that Esther was summoned by her cousin to utilize her influence to save her people. It would require exposure of her heritage. It was then made known that her marriage to a pagan king and his love for her would possibly be the means by which her people might be saved. But Esther had to respond in faith and obedience to the call. The call was not without risks. She could have lost her life because the king had not summoned her to come to him. Wife or no wife, queen or no queen, she could have lost her head if she came to him without prior summoning. She also could have lost her life because the decree had already been signed and sealed by the king to kill all Jews in his kingdom on a certain day.

Not knowing what to do, Esther fasted and prayed for 3 days. She asked that all Jews in the Persian kingdom likewise fast and pray for 3 days. With a resolve to answer the call whether she would perish or not, Esther went forth to plead to the king for her people. The outcome of her obedience was so successful, it led to the salvation of her people, the advancement of her cousin Mordecai to second in command of all the people in the Persian kingdom (See Esther 10:3), and salvation to her husband whose son, Darius, confirmed the decree to rebuild the house of God in Jerusalem and that prayer be made for him and his family (See Daniel 9:1; Ezra 6 and 7).

Being married to Nabal was no easy task for Abigail. The Bible does not mention whether or not she entered the relationship of her own free will, or if it was arranged. Abigail was described as “a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance.” Nabal was described as “churlish and evil in his doings” (See I Samuel 25:3).

When Nabal had a chance to repay David and his men for protecting his flock, Nabal refused to share any of his wealth with them. His response was so ungrateful that David prepared to kill every male in Nabal’s household. Abigail found out from the servants about the ill treatment David’s men had received at the hand of her husband. She quickly interceded on behalf of her entire household. She could have taken this situation as a way of deliverance from a bad marriage. After all, David wasn’t after her. Instead, she remained faithful to her marriage vow and interceded on behalf of her foolish husband.

She quickly gathered what she could for David and his men – without consulting her husband. She ran out to meet David and his men as they were on their way to kill Nabal and his men. She humbled herself before David and his men, took the blame for her husband’s foolishness, appeased the wrath of David, and then she went back home.

Unaware of how close he came to death, Nabal was feasting on his goods and was in a drunken, but merry stupor. Abigail appropriately waited for him to sober up before telling him what she did, the next day. That’s when the LORD stepped in to deliver Abigail from a bad marriage. The Bible says that when Abigail told him what she did, Nabal’s heart became as a stone. Ten days later, the LORD smote him and he died. I believe that within those ten days before his actual death, Abigail, as was her custom, took care of Nabal. And she probably prayed for him. If Nabal makes it to Heaven, it will be the result of a praying wife who remained faithful to a churlish man, until only death parted them. As a result of her faithfulness, Abigail remarried – this time to a king (David) who is in the lineage of Jesus Christ. Truly, her Maker became her husband (See I Samuel 25).

Our last example is a strong rebuke to those who would make the fatal and eternal mistake of following an ungodly husband to perdition. Ananias and Sapphira were part of the early church. Apparently, they had pledged to sell some land and bring all of the proceeds to the church to help in the work. After selling the land, however, both husband and wife reneged on the pledge by withholding some of the proceeds of the sale. When Ananias got to the church, he brought part of the money from the sale of the land and would have the people believe that he gave all. However, the Holy Ghost revealed the lie and exposed him. When Peter rebuked Ananias for lying to the Holy Ghost, Ananias fell dead. Three hours later, when her husband failed to return home, Sapphira went to the church looking for him. She was questioned about the amount of money that the land was sold for. She knowingly told the same lie as her husband. She was likewise rebuked for lying to the Holy Ghost and was committed to the same punishment as her husband (See Acts 5: 1 – 10). They were buried together, and will likely burn together.

The wife should follow her husband as long as he follows the LORD. But if he chooses to let go of the LORD, the wife should remain faithful to God. She can and should remain married to her man if the ungodly husband wants to remain in the marriage. According to the scriptures, the unbelieving husband is sanctified by a believing wife – as long as she remains faithful to God. Salvation can even come to an unbelieving husband who is married to a believing wife. The reverse is also true (See I Cor. 7: 10 – 16). If the unbelieving husband departs from the believing wife, then she is free of the marriage vow she made. The reverse is also true.

From the examples given above, it can be seen that obedience to God was the primary ingredient for the successful marriage. Neither beauty, wealth, nor a perfect beginning will guarantee a happy, successful marriage. This holy institution that was established by God, can only be ideally experienced as the participants remain faithful to God, in obedience to His Word.

So you want to get married? That’s a good and honorable thing to do. My prayer is that God grants you the desire of your heart. Begin by walking with God; trusting Him to prepare you for this role; waiting on Him for the hook-up; and depending on Him for the success of your marriage as you remain obedient to Him.

God Bless You,

Copyright © 2011, Marcia Davis

Edify! In Spirit & Truth

From the Root of Bitterness to the Seven Abominations

She lied on you. Your boyfriend cheated on you. She borrowed money from you and promised to pay it right back, but after 6 months, she hasn’t said a word. Your boss gave you an unfair evaluation and it looks like she’s trying to set you up to fire you. The pastor leaked out some personal information that you shared in confidence, and now the whole church knows about it. Your “supposed-to-be” best friend is trying to hit on your man. You know she saw you, but she didn’t even speak to you. It all starts with an offense—so, what are you going to do about it?

Offenses can make you angry…understandably so. But it must not lead you to sin. The Bible says, “Be angry, and sin not. Let not the sun go down upon your wrath” Ephesians 4:26. If someone hurts you, or if you suspect you have hurt someone, the Bible instructs us to try to work it out. Be reconciled to that person if possible. Forgive others when they do you wrong. When you have done all in your power to make it right and the other person still treats you bad, the Bible goes on to say “…Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you and persecute you” (see Matthew 18:15 – 17; Matthew 4:23 – 24; Matthew 6:14 – 15; Matthew 5:44). As much as possible, we are to live peaceably with all men. We are not to try to avenge ourselves, but to leave that up to God. We are to overcome evil with good! (see Romans 12:18 – 21)

Doesn’t seem fair? Looks like the bad guy gets away with murder? Not at all! These instructions were given not so much as to let the offender get away with wrong doing, but to set YOU free and to keep YOU from eternal damnation. Why go to hell because someone did you wrong?

How is it that someone else can do me wrong, and I end up in hell? Let’s consider the story of the unmerciful debtor in Matthew 18:23 – 35. In this story, there was a servant who owed the king a LOT of money. The king was making plans to sell the man, his wife and his children into slavery as well as sell all his possessions until the debt had been paid in full. The servant fell down and begged the king for mercy and patience until he could pay the debt. The king was moved with compassion and completely forgave the man the entire debt that was owed. That same man went away free, but as he was going out, he came across a fellow servant (someone just like him) who owed him a small FRACTION of what he owed the king. Immediately, he grabbed the man by the throat and demanded he pay up. That fellow servant fell down and begged him for mercy and patience until he could pay the debt. But the forgiven servant chose not to forgive. He had his fellow servant put in prison until he should pay the debt. Other people were looking on and felt bad about the situation. So they told the king what happened. The king became angry with the servant because of his failure to show compassion on his fellow servant. This time, the king turned the wicked servant over to the tormentors until he should pay all that he owed. And, according to the scriptures, “So likewise shall [the] Heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not everyone his brother their trespasses” (Matthew 18:35).

Take a look at the slippery slope to hell when we refuse to forgive. It starts with the offense. This makes you angry. When that anger is not dealt with properly (with a spirit of forgiveness), it turns into bitterness. Some synonyms for bitterness include anger, resentment, animosity, hatred and hostility. Bitterness is to the soul, what metastatic cancer is to the body. When allowed to take root, it invades the soul imperceptibly until it destroys you. Based on his actions, the wicked servant in the story had undoubtedly become furious with his fellow servant and probably felt justified in throwing him into prison. His bitterness however, had blinded him to the depravity of his own soul. He who had been shown mercy and grace, failed to show the same toward others. The Scriptures instruct us to “follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the LORD: Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God: lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled” Hebrews 12:14-15.

In short, bitterness leads to defilement. Let’s look at what defiles a man. “For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies: These are the things which defile a man….” (Matthew 15: 19-20). That which is defiled is not pure. “Unto the pure, all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving is nothing pure; but even their mind and conscience is defiled. They profess that they know God; but in works they deny him, being abominable, and disobedient, and unto every good work reprobate” (Titus 1: 15-16). What are the abominable works that they do? In Proverbs 6:16-19, the Scriptures tell us that there are seven abominations in the heart of a person who is filled with hatred—and the LORD hates them all! “These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto Him:

• A proud look (arrogance, blasphemy)
• A lying tongue (a false witness)
• Hands that shed innocent blood (a murderer)
• A heart that deviseth wicked imaginations (evil thoughts)
• Feet that be swift in running to mischief (someone who is bent on doing evil)
• A false witness that speaketh lies (a liar)
• He that soweth discord among brethren” (an instigator)

How similar are the seven things that defile a man and the seven abominations that God hates! Those who are abominable are among those who will be lost (see Revelations 21:8).

When bitterness takes root, it will defile you – corrupt or ruin you; cause you to be polluted; destroy your relationship and subsequently your sanctity with God. “What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?” (I Cor. 6: 19) We grieve the Holy Spirit when we harbor bitterness in our hearts? Instead of yielding to the promptings of the Holy Spirit to forgive, we stubbornly reject His counsel, and in self-righteous indignation, we judge the person who hurt us; we condemn him or her and therefore put ourselves in God’s place. That is idolatry in the first degree! Those who do this practice rebellion against the word of God. And, according to the Scriptures, “…rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry” (I Samuel 15:23). If you don’t let go of the bitterness, the Holy Spirit may depart from you, leaving you unforgiven, removed from grace, and subject to destruction. Like the wicked servant, you will be turned over to the tormentors.

You may be wondering, “Who or what are the tormentors?” The Bible describes two people who lived in torment: Saul, the first king of Israel, and the demoniac who was filled with a legion of demons. Saul was chosen by God to be the first king of Israel when the people desired a king. At first, Saul was humble. But it wasn’t long after he gained some popularity and strength that he began to do things his own way, and became disobedient to the LORD. His disobedience was likened to rebellion, which is as the sin of witchcraft. His stubbornness was the same as iniquity and idolatry. He rejected the word of the LORD, and the LORD rejected him from being king (see I Samuel 15:22 – 23). The Spirit of the LORD was taken from Saul and replaced with an evil spirit, which troubled him. Whenever this evil spirit came upon Saul, special music played on a harp was the only thing that would bring him some relief. He apparently had no rest during those times. The harpist who played those soul-soothing tunes was none other than David who became the next king of Israel.

Saul was troubled with envy, jealousy, paranoia, and fear. He falsely accused David of being his enemy and hunted him down like a dog for months. He tried to kill David several times, and he killed anybody that he thought befriended David. Saul even tried to kill his own son (Jonathan), who loved David like a brother. Before he died, Saul had stooped so low that he consulted a witch for help, because the LORD had rejected him and would no longer answer his call. Incidentally, don’t you find it interesting that the one who had been commissioned to destroy all the witches, wizards and those who had familiar spirits out of the land, ended up seeking after a witch through his rebellion against God? (see I Samuel 28:7-20)

Nothing is said about the circumstances that led the demoniac to be filled with a legion of demons, but the Scriptures describe him as being wild and untamable. He was often bound with chains and fetters, which he would break. He was “always, night and day,…in the mountains, and in the tombs, crying, and cutting himself with stones” (Mark 5: 4 and 5). What a sad, bloody picture of a man tormented by the devil.

Spiritually speaking, the tormentors are demonic spirits that cause one to have envy, jealousy, paranoia, fear, pain, sadness, fierceness, restlessness, and a tendency toward self-mutilation, and self-destruction.

Likewise, physically speaking, bitterness causes stress in the individual. It is a medically known fact that stress causes the release of a hormone in the body called cortisol. When cortisol levels are high, the body cannot produce the antibodies it needs to protect itself from pathogens that cause disease. Thus, stress negatively impacts the immune system, making a person more susceptible to disease. Stress has been linked to such deadly diseases as cancer and hypertension. It has been linked to autoimmune diseases like lupus, in which a person’s body literally self-destructs; and fibromyalgia which causes physical pain for unknown reasons. To live in bitterness is to subject oneself to spiritual, mental and physical torment.

So here is the demonic plan:

Offense → Anger→ Unforgiveness→ Bitterness→ Defilement→ The Seven Abominations→ Physical and Mental Torment→ Eternal Damnation

Look at where a little bitterness can take you! The best antidote for bitterness is IMMEDIATE forgiveness! Forgive immediately – WHILE you are being persecuted. Jesus forgave those who were killing Him WHILE He was on the cross! (see Luke 23:34) Steven forgave his persecutors WHILE he was being stoned! (see Acts 7: 59 – 60) So when offenses are hurled at you, follow after the example of Christ and others who have overcome evil with good. And TRUST that the LORD will see you through. Remember, “Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “VENGEANCE IS MINE, I WILL REPAY,” says the LORD” Romans 12:19.

Your solution to bitterness:

• Cry out, “Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: …See if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting” (Psalms 139). You may not know you’ve got bitterness in your heart, but God will reveal it to you if you ask.
• Recognize that bitterness is a sin. Confess your sins to God, because “if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins AND to cleanse us of ALL unrighteousness” I John 1:9.
• Just as the LORD forgives you for bitterness and any other sin in your life, forgive those who have offended you. “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice. And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you” Ephesians 4: 31 – 32.
• In order to forgive like that, you’ve got to PUT on and KEEP on the WHOLE armor of God, recognizing that your battle is not with people, but with the devil! (see Ephesians 6: 10 – 18) The devil is your real enemy! And the battle is for your soul! The Bible says that the devil, like a roaring lion, goes about seeking whom he may devour (see I Peter 5:8). Sometimes, he works through people to make you fall so that he can destroy you. Recognize that those people who allow themselves to be used by the enemy to hurt others are really living in darkness and may not know what they are doing. They may not recognize the spiritual significance of the offenses that they commit. That’s why you need to go to them when they offend you. Let them know how their actions hurt you, and try to work it out. That might solve the problem immediately. Who knows, they may have acted the way they did because of something YOU did to them that you were unaware of.
• Recognize that God takes no pleasure in the death of the wicked. It is His desire that all people repent (turn from wickedness) and be saved (see Ezekiel 33:11) And who knows, perhaps YOU are the only reflection of Jesus they see! Thus, as an ambassador for Christ and a representative for the Kingdom of Heaven, “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you and persecute you; that ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven….” (Matthew 5: 44- 45).

When you are finally able to forgive like the LORD requires, you will begin to see offenses in a whole different light. The Bible says that offenses MUST come, but woe unto those who cause them! (see Matthew 18:7) To the Christian, offenses become opportunities to win souls for Christ. When the offenders come, you find yourself praying for them and showing them the love of Christ. As you lift up Christ by your actions, the Scriptures say that HE will draw ALL men to Him! You may be the instrument God uses to save another soul! What a blessed opportunity! What the enemy meant for your destruction becomes the means by which the LORD saves YOU and others.

May the LORD bless you and keep you in perfect peace as you walk in forgiveness, ultimate joy, health, soundness of mind, strength, and all the freedom that it brings.

God Bless You,

Copyright © 2011, Marcia Davis

Heart Matters

So, You Want to Get Married (Part II): Prepared and Presented

When she opened her eyes on the very first day of her life, she literally saw God! She gazed into His wonderful eyes and knew Love. God Himself loved her and was very pleased with His newest creation. Unlike any other creature that God had made, Eve was created from something borrowed. She was the first to receive an organ transplant. She was made to fit the organ transplanted so that there would be no rejection. With His own hands, God patiently molded and made her to suit one specific man. God knew Adam’s tastes. He knew Adam’s personality. He knew what Adam needed. After all He had made, there was only one more thing that Adam needed to fully enjoy what God had given him. He needed a wife – someone who would be his helper and companion; someone with whom he could create life and fulfill God’s command to multiply and replenish the earth. He needed something that at the time, Adam was not even aware of. So Adam was put into a deep sleep and God performed the first surgical operation. According the scriptures (Genesis 2:21 and 22), He took a rib from Adam and closed up the wound. With that same rib, God created Eve. She was created from a “God-inflicted” wound in the man and was called woman. While Adam slept, God created Eve to be the right size, the right shape, the right personality, the right temperament, the right woman for Adam – PERFECT in every way. It wasn’t until Adam awakened from this deep sleep that he sensed a need for something—and God provided the missing link to complete the man.

As God lifted her from the ground, I can imagine Him like a proud, loving Father, beholding His daughter, a beautiful woman, who is ready to begin her journey in life. The Father Himself rejoiced over her and was very pleased. God taught Eve her first steps. Eve never experienced loneliness because from the moment she was created, she walked with God. As Eve walked arm in arm with God, she was given her ministry—to be a companion and a helper for her man. God prepared Eve for her role in life, and like a proud Father walking His beautiful daughter down the aisle, God brought and presented Eve to Adam.

So, you want to get married? Assuming your answer is still “Yes,” it is time to prepare. Our lessons on marriage preparation come from the Bible, and are gleaned from the accounts of Eve and Esther. In Genesis 2:22, we learn how Eve was prepared. And in Esther 2:5 – 20, we learn how Esther was prepared. Notice that neither of these women had any chance to express her choice concerning the man she would marry. Neither of these women had any foreknowledge of their husbands’ personality, likes or dislikes. Both were prepared for a specific man, for a specific “God-ordained” purpose. Both women captured the hearts of their men at first sight, so much so that each man chose to be committed to his woman for life.

What went into the preparation of Eve and Esther for marriage? One common theme is the fact that both were prepared by God. God prepared them physically, mentally, and spiritually.

The Physical Preparation:

When God created the first woman, He created a masterpiece! She was designed with a nature to love and to nurture – attributes from her Creator. She was designed with some of the physical elements of a man and would have some degree of strength as a man. She was made delicate enough to handle fine china, but strong and tensile enough to bear children. She was made intelligent enough to comprehend all things, yet humble enough to submit to the man’s leadership.

Eve’s physical features were designed by the hand of God. Every woman thereafter came through the womb of a mother—Eve being the first, and mother of us all. But even in that, according to the scripture, before God formed us in our mother’s belly, He knew us (Jeremiah 1:5). In Psalms 139:14 – 16 we find out that we are fearfully and wonderfully made—made in the image of God! (Genesis 1:27). Matthew 10:30 even notes that the very hairs of our heads are all numbered!

So when you look at yourself in the mirror, realize that your physical form and design are from God. That knowledge in itself should cause you to realize how special you are. Even if you have an identical twin, there is no one else in the whole world exactly like you. When you look in the mirror, knowing that your features were God ordained, you should have a sense of satisfaction. Unless your features have been marred by injury, disease, personal neglect, or dissatisfaction, you look like the person God intended you to look like.

That said, understand that the “physical” preparation for marriage is simple—dress it and keep it! Adam and Eve were placed in the Garden of Eden to dress and keep it (Genesis 2: 15). The garden was their first home. Without proper care, even the perfect garden would become overgrown and lose some of its appeal and usefulness. Your body is the physical house that you were born with. Like a garden, it needs to be watered regularly, weeded, pruned, trimmed, and fertilized. Your physical body needs to be kept clean; nourished with a healthy diet; exercised and worked to make it strong and keep it toned and trim. Additionally, there are other things that can be done to the body to enhance its physical appeal in accordance to the specific taste of the individual. Thus we have manicures, pedicures, make-up, hairstyling, and fashion to enhance the physical appearance. All of this, done in moderation, is acceptable to God.

The Bible described Esther as fair and beautiful in appearance. She, along with all of the other beautiful virgins in the entire Persian kingdom (127 provinces in all) was part of an elaborate but forced beauty contest to win the heart of King Ahasuerus (a.k.a. Xerxes), and become his queen. The physical preparation for possible marriage to the king included “six months with oil of myrrh and six months with sweet odors and other things for the purifying of the women” (Esther 2: 12).

Myrrh oil has several uses. For example, it has been cited to be useful for skin problems such as athlete’s foot, ring worm, dry skin, eczema, and even wrinkles, to name a few. It’s even good for arthritis, asthma, gingivitis, menstrual problems, and so much more! As part of the purification ritual, it apparently served as a tonic to promote physical health. A year-long process, Esther’s physical preparation for marriage to the king thus included exposure to substances and rituals that kept her healthy, looking good and smelling good.

When properly cared for, your body will be strong enough to handle all of the roles you will play as a wife. Aside from being a friend and lover to your husband, you may become a mother to his children. As his helper, you may even find yourself as the “bread winner” in the family—especially if sickness or job loss should happen to your husband.

As part of your physical preparation, learn to appreciate what God has given you. Develop it to the best of your ability and take care of it. When you have done what you need to do to properly care for your body, avoid a spirit of dissatisfaction with your appearance. This negative attitude could lead to covetousness and envy. The attitude in your heart will be reflected in your face and revealed by your tongue (Matthew 12: 34). A negative attitude will destroy the confidence you need to stand to your full height, aspire to your full potential, and walk with dignity. The scriptures say that, “godliness with contentment is great gain” (I Timothy 6:6). As icing is to cake, so is a spirit of contentment to the truly beautiful woman. Be content and satisfied with the physical features God has blessed you with. This attitude of contentment will add such a glow to your physical appearance that you will indeed be beautiful to behold!

The Mental Preparation:

Before Eve met Adam, she walked with God. There is no mention about the amount of time between Eve’s creation and her presentation to Adam. We do know however, that Adam was put into a deep sleep for the operation—totally oblivious to God’s plan. When he awakened, God presented him with a fully-grown, mature woman—not a little girl. Sometime between this deep sleep and the first sight of his woman, Eve was prepared by God and then brought by God to Adam. It is during this interim period between her physical preparation and her actual presentation to Adam that we might examine Eve’s mental and spiritual preparation for marriage.

God taught her how to walk. God took pleasure in observing His young daughter explore with glee the new world all around her. Eve was mesmerized by the beauty in the earth and perhaps was the first to take a flower and place it in her hair. She was particularly drawn to the baby animals that followed their mothers and she saw what it took to nurture the young. As she picked up the precious little animals, she cuddled and handled them ever so gently, and then returned them to their mothers. There was order and beauty everywhere! What’s more…Eve did not experience loneliness because from the time of her creation, she was with God, her Father.

During the final moments of her “single” walk with God, as they strolled down the aisle of earth’s new beginnings, perhaps God and Eve had that critical Father-daughter conversation. God told Eve she was beautiful and intelligent. He was very pleased with her and He loved her with an everlasting love. She could be anything and do anything she wanted to do if she put her mind and her heart to it. He told her she was about to be given to another man and she would continue her journey in life side-by-side with him. Although she was being given away in marriage, Eve was admonished to not be afraid, because God, her Heavenly Father, would always be with her wherever she went, even when she could not physically see Him. He would only be a prayer away.

In this heart to heart conversation between God and His precious daughter, Eve, He explained to her why and how she was created. A small but crucial part of her physical make up was taken from the man. But unlike the man, she was empowered to bring forth and nurture new life. She was specially equipped by God to love. The Father perhaps told Eve what her role would be as a wife. She would have power over her man’s body (I Corinthians 7:4) and was to meet his needs for intimacy. With her delicate nature, she was to handle her husband’s ego like fine china and give him the respect he needed (Ephesians 5:33). When handled rightly, she would give her husband the encouragement to attain to the height of his God-given potential. She was given intelligence enough to help manage the dominion of the whole earth, along with Adam. While she was to submit to his leadership, she was equipped to manage things without his help if the need arose. She was taught how to take care of her garden home and to make and keep it heaven-like. And, at the appointed time, God presented to Adam not a girl, but a mature, intelligent, beautiful woman, fully prepared to be his wife.

Esther was adopted by her first cousin, Mordecai when her parents died. He took Hadassah (Esther) as his own daughter and raised her. When the Babylonians invaded Jerusalem, Mordecai and many Jews were taken captive and exiled to Babylon. By the time Esther came along, the Babylonian kingdom had fallen to the Persians but the Jews were still in exile there. Mordecai taught Esther all she knew about her Jewish heritage, customs and traditions. She learned to worship the true God of Heaven.

When Esther was captured and forced to participate in the beauty contest, she was wisely instructed by her cousin Mordecai not to reveal her heritage so that it might go well with her in the pagan kingdom. Esther had developed the habit of listening to her adoptive father and did what she was told. This habit of obedience to authority paid off well because when she came under custody of the keeper of women in the palace, she had such a pleasing demeanor and teachable spirit that she was entreated most favorably.

After a year of preparation, each woman in the contest was allowed to choose anything she wanted out of the house of the women before going to be with the king. She had only one chance to impress him. If the king delighted in her, she might be chosen queen. But if not, she was assigned to a second house where the concubines were kept. She would no longer be allowed to come before the king unless he called for her by name. As a concubine, she was not free to be married to any other man for the rest of her life. So it was very important to impress the king the FIRST time she met him.

When it was Esther’s turn to go before the king, instead of asking for gaudy jewels or fancy clothes, Esther wisely sought counsel from the keeper of the women as to what she should choose to take. Who would be in a better position than him to know the king’s taste in women? Whatever he advised was taken seriously by Esther. The scriptures say that Esther “required nothing but what Hegai, the king’s chamberlain, the keeper of the women, appointed. And Esther found favor in the sight of all them that looked upon her” (Esther 2:15). With a deep breath, dressed and ready to go, and at the appointed time, God presented to King Ahasuerus, a beautiful woman, fully prepared to be his wife and queen. When King Ahasuerus saw Esther, it was love at first sight! She was the chosen one!

The mental preparation for marriage therefore involves learning all you can to live successfully in life. Develop your mental capacity to the fullest. Get a good education. When it comes to marriage, consider the wisdom of those who are experienced in marriage and who can direct you in a godly manner.

The Spiritual Preparation:

The spiritual preparation of Eve was also of the LORD God, our Heavenly Father. There were no ten commandments at the time; no rules or rituals for worshipping God; and no sacrificing of animals because initially there was no sin in the earth. Adam and Eve were simply instructed by God to avoid the one thing that would cause them to die—eating fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. As long as they obeyed God, they could enjoy face-to-face fellowship with Him and live eternally.

We all know the outcome. When Eve was tempted to disobey God, she succumbed—all of which ultimately led to marital discord, a dysfunctional family, death, and the need for divine intervention to bring salvation to mankind.

Her adoptive father, Mordecai, who taught her the customs of her Jewish heritage, provided the spiritual preparation of Esther. Spiritually speaking, she was taught to worship the God of Heaven, the One God Who created all things. She was taught from the Torah, which includes the Ten Commandments. In particular, the fifth commandment, “Honor thy father and thy mother that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee” (Exodus 20: 12), was the one in which Esther shined. She obeyed her earthly father, in keeping with the law of God, and it went well with her. When Esther was chosen to be queen, the scriptures say that she “had not yet showed her kindred nor her people; as Mordecai had charged her: for Esther did the commandment of Mordecai, like as when she was brought up with him” (Esther 2: 20). Even as a young adult, Esther continued to be obedient to her adoptive father, Mordecai, and it went well with her.

The time did come however, when Esther was told by her father to intercede for her people, the Jews. This would require revealing her cultural background. It required her going before the king at a time when he had not called her. It was a risk that might have cost Esther her life. Esther was torn between obedience to her father, Mordecai, or obedience to a Persian law which said you only go before the king when called, otherwise, you might be killed. The law applied even if the king was her husband. In her struggle to know what to do, Mordecai reminded Esther that her selection as queen might have been God-ordained and thus instrumental to the preservation of her people. It wasn’t simply her beauty or intelligence that got her there. It was a God-appointed assignment in which He would use the union of Esther and Ahasuerus for the benefit of the Jewish people.

Esther had learned the value of prayer and fasting. Once again, she chose to obey her father. She fasted and prayed and asked her people to fast and pray for 3 days. As a result, her life was spared, her people were spared a heinous plot for genocide, and her husband came to know and honor the God of Heaven.

The spiritual preparation for marriage therefore involves studying the Word of God, so that you can learn what your Heavenly Father requires of you as a woman and what is required of those who choose marriage. By seeking the LORD, and obeying Him you have the best chance to be successful in marriage.

So, you want to get married? First ask the Lord for a good husband. Wait on the Lord for the husband you desire. And as you wait, allow the Lord to prepare you for marriage:

• Physically – Accept and appreciate the body God has given you and take good care of it so that you look and feel your best at all times.

• Mentally – Learn all you can to be successful in life. Get a good education and develop your talents to the fullest. When it comes to marriage, consider the wisdom of godly couples that have experienced success. Let them serve as your mentors.

• Spiritually – Study God’s word and obey it. Keep God first in your life. When temped to walk counter to the will of God, choose the righteous way, even if it looks like you might lose the man you love, or even your very life! Trust in the LORD, and He will give you the desires of your heart.

And finally, WAIT ON THE HOOK-UP!!! Let the Lord present you to your husband. Only He knows when you are ready for the ministry of marriage, and the man He chooses for you. When you have asked God for a good husband, you don’t have to go looking for one. God is working it out for you.

Eve married a perfect man under perfect conditions. Esther married a pagan king in a sinful nation that had no regard for God. What was the key to marital success or the lack thereof? Stay tuned for part III where we take a good look at Married Life – Truly a Ministry!

God bless you,

Devotional Thoughts 4 Real Supermodels

The Perils of Fear

Fear imprisons, faith liberates. Fear sickens, but faith heals. Fear makes you useless, but faith makes you serviceable. Don’t be afraid of the enemy or his attacks. Instead, trust and have faith in God and His plan.

Stay prayerful and have a wonderful day,

Heart Matters

So, You Want to Get Married

Why?

• “I’m lonely.” Valid, but not a good enough reason to marry.
• “I want to be loved!” You’re already loved – with an everlasting love! (see Jeremiah 31:3)
• “I want to have children and time is running out!” Careful!  Don’t put the cart before the horse!
• “I need a man!” Caution!  You could run him away if you’re too needy!
• “I want to have a beautiful wedding!” Beware of vanity because this is only the surface!
• “But I love him!”

OK.  That’s a start in the right direction.  But how deep is your love?

• Do you love him enough to commit the rest of your life to him?
• Do you love him enough to accept him as he is without trying to change anything about him?
• Do you love him enough to put your career on the line if need be?
• Do you love him enough to live within the means that he can provide, and not by the standard you’ve created in your head?
• Do you love him enough to submit to him as instructed in the Bible? (see Ephesians 5:22)
• Do you love him enough to build him up when he’s down?
• Do you love him enough to deal with his family?
• Do you realize that the man you say you love is not only human, but that he comes with human frailties? Sometimes he’s selfish, egotistical and “big-headed”; sometimes he’s messy and lazy when it comes to housework; sometimes he’s mean, rude, and a bit crude; sometimes he’s a poor listener and all around communicator; and on top of all that, sometimes he smells bad! Still love him?
• More importantly, are you ready to reflect God’s love in the context of marriage?

If you answered yes to all of the above, then you may be ready for marriage.  One last critical question:

• Do you love God more than you love your man?

If you answered yes to my final question, then you’re ready.  And here is why. Marriage was instituted by God.  So if you want to be married, and you want a good husband who is right for you, FIRST SEEK THE LORD!!!

Loneliness is one of the reasons why God instituted marriage.  He acknowledged that it is not good for man to be alone.  Thus, Eve was created for Adam—to be his companion and helper.  Notice that the woman was not only created for the man, she was also shaped from a piece of him (see Genesis 2:21-22).  Essentially the man was wounded in his side, to make place for a woman—at his side.  With the rib taken from Adam, God made Eve to be the perfect fit for him.

This leads me to my next question:

• Will you TRUST God and WAIT on Him to prepare you to be the perfect fit for the man He has in store for you?

Or, are you worried that there aren’t enough good men available?  Is God limited in His supplies?  Will you trust God for the right hook up…at the right time…in the right place?  Look at what God did for Adam. He got a chance to see and name ALL of the animals in the whole earth before the LORD introduced him to Eve!  At first it seemed like every creature in the world had a suitable mate, except Adam! Nevertheless, Adam continued in the work God placed before him, and at the right time and in the right place, GOD HOOKED HIM UP!!!  And Eve was PERFECT for him (see Genesis 2:18-23).

Marriage was not only established to provide companionship, it was also instituted because the man needed a helper. In marriage, the woman is supposed to help her man!  Help him how? On their wedding day, the new couple does not know what the future holds for them.  So the help that the wife may be called upon to provide could mean anything!  If job loss or disability strikes, she may have to work to provide financially for the family.  She may have to put her career on hold so he can progress in his career pursuits.   When he feels weak and insecure, the wife is in a key position to build her man up and encourage him to keep pressing on, to grow, to climb to higher heights!

Do you realize the deep significance of the role of a wife? The wife’s role in marriage is so pivotal that the devil used the woman to turn the man away from God by leading him into disobedience.  Isn’t it interesting that the one who was intended to help the man, was used by the enemy to destroy him? I submit to you, that just as the woman was used to bring the man down, God can use the woman to bring him back to the LORD.  Hence, her role as a helper has deeper significance.  When a woman takes the marriage vow, she is committing herself to helping her man make it to the Kingdom!  Now her success is totally dependent upon God. Therefore she MUST keep God first and foremost in her life.

AFTER Adam and Eve were brought together in marriage, they were commanded to multiply and replenish the earth. As such, marriage is also the setting in which children are to be born. I Corinthians 7:14 suggests that children born to a married couple are holy unto the Lord. Thus, it is better to wait until married before having children.  Like it or not, those who willfully put themselves in a position to conceive and bear children before marriage, commit fornication—which is not the best way to start your “happily ever after.” And innocent children along with their parents, more often than not, suffer for it.

However, according to the scriptures, if you can’t contain your sexual desires, it is better to marry than to burn with passion (see I Corinthians 7: 9). Let me caution you though:  Those who allow themselves to “sexually” get too close…too quickly…run the risk of rushing into a marriage that is not God’s best plan for them. Bamboozled by their “lust” for one another—not their “love” for each other—they skip crucial steps necessary for those desiring to marry.  They miss or ignore warning signs, subsequently subjecting themselves to struggles that the LORD never intended them to bear. Thus, it is better to WAIT patiently on the LORD!

Finally, love is what it’s all about—loving and being loved.  The marriage relationship was intended to be an earthly reflection of the relationship between Jesus Christ, His bride (the church, represented as the woman), and God the Father.  Looking to Christ as the “model husband,” men are admonished to love their wives as Christ has loved the church (see Ephesians 5:25). Christ gave His life to save her.  He loves her with an everlasting love.  He has promised never to leave her nor forsake her.  In turn she (the church) is to be committed by being faithful to Him.  She is to love Him with all her heart, with all her soul, with all her mind and with all her might.  She is not to put another man, woman, child, nor her personal desires before her LORD. Lastly, she is to love others as she loves herself.

Christ is preparing a place for His bride and will return to earth to receive and marry her so that they can live together happily ever after.  She in turn is to wait patiently for His return.  Further, because of her commitment to Christ, she is to prepare herself for Him as she waits.  As you can see, they both are preparing for the GRAND wedding!  And, God the Father has given His stamp of approval of this Holy Union.  He has invited many guests to the wedding and all who will attend are listed in the Book of Life!  The bride of Christ will walk in white, a representation of the purity of her heart.  This “MARRIAGE” is none other than the plan of salvation for mankind.  It is going to be the most glorious event of all time and all who desire can attend (see Rev. 19:7-9 and 21:9-27).

So, what is the significance of all this to you right now?  I want you to see the deeper, spiritual significance of what you desire; what you are to reflect as you enter a marriage covenant; and who you will be representing. It is a good thing!  You may not have a man in your life right now that you would consider marrying.  That’s O.K.!  Leave that up to the Lord!  But it’s time to start preparing.  You’ve got a LOT of work to do!!!

Still want to get married? Stay tuned for Part 2, as we go in-depth about what it means to “prepare” yourself for marriage.

God bless you,

President’s Message: From My Heart to Yours

Finding Your “Inner” Supermodel

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised” Proverbs 31:30 (NKJV).

Janice Dickinson, former top fashion model, claims that she is the world’s first supermodel. My guess is that she bases her theory on her success within the fashion industry. However, if you’ve read the Supermodel Society’s “About” page, you know that we believe that true supermodels are individuals who strive to make every effort to express the best in themselves in a manner that inspires others to strive to be their best, all to the glory of God.

Aside from that which has been portrayed in the media, and because I don’t personally know her, I am unable to comment as to whether or not Ms. Dickinson strives to make every effort to express the best in herself to inspire others to be their best ultimately for the glorification of God. In fact, many people who possess coveted titles such as “supermodel”, “star”, or “celebrity” (in the secular sense of the word) live lives that can cause one to question if they strive to do their best to glorify anyone other than themselves–let alone God.

Having said all of that, I believe that long before Janice Dickinson or any other “fashion” supermodel (for that matter) donned the front covers of any major fashion magazine, that the world had been acquainted with “true” supermodels. Accordingly, for our March/April issue, I’d like to draw your attention to the first of a four-part series on life-lessons from true supermodels who lived thousands of years ago—which you will find in our “features” section.

My hope is that as you become acquainted with these true supermodels of old, and as you read through the other articles featured for this month (in addition to past issues), that you will be inspired to find your true inner supermodel, and be encouraged to strive to express the very best in yourself, thereby inspiring others to strive to be their best, all for the glory and adoration of the Most High God.

As always, may the LORD bless and keep you,

PEID! (Personal Excellence in Development)

Win, Lose, or Draw

During those moments when we are decidedly winning in life, we tend to soar with very little effort. Every area of our existence appears to be in sync and those around us join in the celebration of our perception of endless success. The simple fact is that sometimes we do experience great victory and people are drawn to winners. Everyone enjoys hearing good news. It inspires and encourages us to believe in the possibilities of reaching our own personal goals. It invokes somewhat of an internal “spring fever.” You know that feeling…it’s the feeling of bursting at the seams with creative energy. It’s the sensation of having the Midas touch. We are invincible on the job, superhuman in our relationships, at the top of our game in our finances, and operating in excellence concerning our natural gifts and abilities. Even if only one quarter of the former is true, we have a positive outlook on the rest. While we are winning, our faith in God is strong and possessing joy, or at the very least a sense of contentment is easy.

On the flip side, losing is the pits. In these times our faith is tried and shaken at the core. No one wants to be a loser, nor does anyone wish to be associated with the polar opposite of a champion. Nevertheless, losing is part of the tedious journey. All over the world people are experiencing devastation at the very basic of levels: little to no food, shelter, or clothing. While some of us support efforts that provide help to these individuals through various non-profit organizations, we avoid our literal next-door neighbor. We hear about a friend losing a family member to death, divorce, or suffering from a physical or mental disorder, but keep our distance as though misfortune is contagious. We even offer a listening ear to hear the details of the downtrodden with hopes that we can somehow gain an understanding of how one might avoid the pitfalls leading to tragic occurrences. However, rarely does one go out of his/her way to love on those in unlovely situations for the long haul, mainly because we all have our share of bad times. Evading life’s tragedies big or small is virtually impossible. One way or another, all experience loss and there is no way around it.

Balance is attained when peace is maintained no matter the circumstance. Whether winning or losing, riding the wave of life requires the best possible attitude towards that which we have no power to change. This is the key to the Serenity Prayer which states the following: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” Therefore, when all else fails remaining calm throughout a storm is essential to a graceful recovery.

Polarity transpires as surely as time passes by. Sometimes we are up and sometimes we are down. Regardless, it would serve us best to seek counsel from mentors who act like winners even when they are losing, and in championship moments demonstrate the humility of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

In the Win, Lose or Draw scenario, all we control is the drawing. The other two elements are arbitrary in nature. However, drawing requires genuine intent. It involves choosing carefully the words we speak, our treatment of others, and our ability to keep moving forward. The goal is to draw a new work of art by speaking life into an otherwise dead situation, draw forgiveness for our sins by first forgiving others, and to press pass painful happenings, inviting joy in the “proverbial” morning.

One important aspect of drawing a more optimistic viewpoint of life is a deeper study of the Bible. When we fill our mouths with the word of God, even if we lose, we win, because He promised that it would all work together for our good. Another vital component of creating a new reality is our prayer life. The two put together give us hope for tomorrow and add to our quality of days. When we draw closer to Him, He will inevitably grant us peace, which ultimately means balance to both the victor and the defeated. Win, Lose or Draw, with God for us, who can be against us?

Peace and Many Blessings,

Copyright © 2011, Toni Ellis

Toni T. Ellis is an amazing motivator who knows well her purpose in God.  With both a Bachelor of Science and a Master of Arts in Education, it is evident that she is committed to the pursuit of higher learning. Presently, Toni teaches sixth grade in Las Vegas, Nevada.   However, she earnestly desires to educate by being a living demonstration of God’s word through multi-media ministry. Having had her share of challenging experiences that have shaped her authentic moral views both personally and professionally, she uses her life’s testimony to give back to her community.  Her eclectic experiences from childhood to adulthood have contributed to the genuine empathetic approach she takes when assisting people with their issues of life.  It is her true heart’s desire to help others see past their pain and to encourage them to press towards a more elevated purpose in life.

Mrs. Ellis has worked with Las Vegas youth since 1997.   She helps to facilitate various community outreach programs for the “at risk” population and uses her own financial resources to create opportunities for young people to hone their artistic skills by providing venues for them to present their talents in music, dance, theater, and poetry.  Occasionally on Sundays at 2:45 PM, she can be heard on KCEP 88.1 offering sound advice to her listeners who rely on her wisdom and blatant honesty concerning their personal plights.  The segment is Empowering E.V.E. (Eternal Vision Enterprisers) and it has been steadily gaining popularity since its January 2009 debut.

Toni’s commitment to excellence and dedication to urban renewal is inspiring to everyone.  Teaming up with her husband in 2009 to produce Diversity Fest, an annual event, is Toni’s latest project and promises to unite Las Vegas youth through various genres of Christian music, dance, poetry, theatrical skits and the spoken word.

As “Clarity,” a spoken word artist, she released her first CD, Clarity Redefined, in June of 2005 under her label, Euroclydon Productions.  She decided to expand the spoken word experience by picking up a camera to illustrate the passion behind each poem.  The result of her stepping out of her box is the artistic photography series entitled “Clarity: Frame by Frame.”

Toni is a skillful vocalist and poet whose recent discovery of talent as a photographer led to her becoming the featured artist at the West Las Vegas Arts Center during their Women’s History appreciation focus from March 3, 2007 – April 29, 2007.

Toni is happily married to Dr. Lamont Ellis, who is an established and well-respected physician in southern Nevada.  They have three daughters, ages 19, 13, and 11.  As a mother of three beautiful daughters, it is paramount that she be proactive in preparing her girls to become responsible citizens and valuable contributors among all women in this world.  Raising healthy young women means educating them to become self-sufficient, Christ-centered human beings and productive participants in this society.  She leads by example as a multifaceted woman of today.  Reinventing herself teaches her daughters to avoid stagnation and pursue passions above the norm.

Toni’s talents in writing have led to the development of a line of books that she hopes to have published one day soon.  The books focus on the emotional, physical, and spiritual wellness of children and their families.  Toni freely offers her gifts and talents to assist the youth of today, thereby, grooming the leaders of tomorrow.

Contributors: January/February

Toni T. Ellis (Author of PEID! Faith It Until You Wake It) is an amazing motivator who knows well her purpose in God.  With both a Bachelor of Science and a Master of Arts in Education, it is evident that she is committed to the pursuit of higher learning. Presently, Toni teaches sixth grade in Las Vegas, Nevada.   However, she earnestly desires to educate by being a living demonstration of God’s word through multi-media ministry. Having had her share of challenging experiences that have shaped her authentic moral views both personally and professionally, she uses her life’s testimony to give back to her community.  Her eclectic experiences from childhood to adulthood have contributed to the genuine empathetic approach she takes when assisting people with their issues of life.  It is her true heart’s desire to help others see past their pain and to encourage them to press towards a more elevated purpose in life.

Mrs. Ellis has worked with Las Vegas youth since 1997.   She helps to facilitate various community outreach programs for the “at risk” population and uses her own financial resources to create opportunities for young people to hone their artistic skills by providing venues for them to present their talents in music, dance, theater, and poetry.  Occasionally on Sundays at 2:45 PM, she can be heard on KCEP 88.1 offering sound advice to her listeners who rely on her wisdom and blatant honesty concerning their personal plights.  The segment is Empowering E.V.E. (Eternal Vision Enterprisers) and it has been steadily gaining popularity since its January 2009 debut.

Toni’s commitment to excellence and dedication to urban renewal is inspiring to everyone.  Teaming up with her husband in 2009 to produce Diversity Fest, an annual event, is Toni’s latest project and promises to unite Las Vegas youth through various genres of Christian music, dance, poetry, theatrical skits and the spoken word.

As “Clarity,” a spoken word artist, she released her first CD, Clarity Redefined, in June of 2005 under her label, Euroclydon Productions.  She decided to expand the spoken word experience by picking up a camera to illustrate the passion behind each poem.  The result of her stepping out of her box is the artistic photography series entitled “Clarity: Frame by Frame.”

Toni is a skillful vocalist and poet whose recent discovery of talent as a photographer led to her becoming the featured artist at the West Las Vegas Arts Center during their Women’s History appreciation focus from March 3, 2007 – April 29, 2007.

Toni is happily married to Dr. Lamont Ellis, who is an established and well-respected physician in southern Nevada.  They have three daughters, ages 19, 13, and 11.  As a mother of three beautiful daughters, it is paramount that she be proactive in preparing her girls to become responsible citizens and valuable contributors among all women in this world.  Raising healthy young women means educating them to become self-sufficient, Christ-centered human beings and productive participants in this society.  She leads by example as a multifaceted woman of today.  Reinventing herself teaches her daughters to avoid stagnation and pursue passions above the norm.

Toni’s talents in writing have led to the development of a line of books that she hopes to have published one day soon.  The books focus on the emotional, physical, and spiritual wellness of children and their families.  Toni freely offers her gifts and talents to assist the youth of today, thereby, grooming the leaders of tomorrow.

Renique Webster (Author of NEW START (Part 2): Exercise) is a loving wife and mother of three, and a Program Coach and Registrar of The Bio-Sanctuary of Shangri-La Environmental Health Institute in Malibu, CA. As a Master Health Coach and Master Herbalist in training, Renique has a passion for health and overall wellness.  If you have any questions or comments about her articles as well as any wellness issues, feel free to contact her at Webs4Health@yahoo.com. From Renique’s heart to yours, know that “You are FEARFULLY and WONDERFULLY made! So make each THOUGHT count!”

President’s Message: From My Heart to Yours

A Year of Fasting

Greetings & Happy New Year!

Praise God for the New Year—a time for new beginnings and new possibilities! Every year billions of people worldwide make their New Year’s resolutions, their personal vow or commitment to improve some aspect of their life. I’m sure that many of you have made your New Year’s resolutions as well. Perhaps your resolution is to lose weight, or improve your attitude. Perhaps it’s to do better in school, get out of debt, get a new job, or even stop eating fast food.

While losing weight, getting out of debt, and limiting your fast food consumption are all worthy resolutions, I’d like to pose a New Year’s challenge for each of us. Let’s make this year (2011), a year of fasting! Now, I’m sure that some of you are looking at this article side-ways—probably asking, “What is she talking about? A YEAR of fasting!?! Is she serious!?!” Well, yes, I am. However, I don’t mean the type of fasting we commonly think of as in not eating for x-amount of days or fasting from watching TV or some other activity. I mean a year of fasting that is pleasing to the LORD.

In Isaiah 58, one of my favorite chapters of the Bible, the LORD speaks to Israel about the type of fasting that is pleasing to Him. In verse 3, the LORD, quoting Israel says, “Why have we fasted, ‘they say,’ “ and You have not seen? Why have we afflicted our souls, and You take no notice?” In His response to Israel’s queries, in verses 5-11, God replies:

(5) “Is it a fast that I have chosen, a day for a man to afflict his soul? Is it to bow down his head like a bulrush, and to spread out sackcloth and ashes? Would you call this a fast, and an acceptable day to the Lord? (6) Is this not the fast that I have chosen: to loose the bonds of wickedness, to undo the heavy burdens, to let the oppressed go free, and that you break every yoke? (7) Is it not to share your bread with the hungry, and that you bring to your house the poor who are cast out; when you see the naked, that you cover him, and not hide yourself from your own flesh? (8) Then your light shall break forth like the morning, your healing shall spring forth speedily, and your righteousness shall go before you; the glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard. (9) Then you shall call, and the Lord will answer; you shall cry, and He will say, ‘Here I am.’ If you take away the yoke from your midst, the pointing of the finger, and speaking wickedness; (10) if you extend your soul to the hungry and satisfy the afflicted soul, then your light shall dawn in the darkness, and your darkness shall be as the noonday. (11) The Lord will guide you continually, and satisfy your soul in drought, and strengthen your bones; you shall be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.”

Here we see that the type of fasting that is pleasing to the LORD is that of reaching out and helping those in need—not starving oneself or performing some other kind of affliction on yourself. Please don’t get me wrong there is a time and place for “afflictive” fasting. However, in the context of this passage and for the purposes of this article, my challenge to you and me is to fast by meeting the needs of others. “Clothe the naked” by emptying your closet of unwanted or rarely used items and give them to someone or some organization that will put those items to good use. “Extend your soul to the hungry” by volunteering at your local soup kitchen, or buy lunch for the person on the street with a sign that says “Hungry…”

There are so many ways in which you can fast by helping those in need. Ask God, and He’ll guide you. Please understand that with this challenge, I’m not asking that you make this a one-time occurrence. The challenge is to do this for the entire year—in other words make this a regular practice throughout the year. Too often, many of us wait until the holidays to do our “good deeds.” As daughters of the Most High God, this should be a part of our lifestyle. Now I know that each of us is busy, but let’s try our best to “fast by meeting someone else’s need” at least once per month. If you can do more, great! However, I believe that once per month is a good place to start.

I also want to encourage you to not run out with the proverbial “loud-speaker” announcing to the world what good work you’ve done. Just you do your part, and watch God openly reward you.

Before I bring this article to a close, I’d like to advise that you read the ENTIRE chapter of Isaiah 58. It goes into more detail on the type of fasting that is well-pleasing to God. With that my fellow Supermodels, as we embark upon this year of fasting that pleases the LORD, which will hopefully take root and become a “way of life” for each of us, I encourage you to remember our motto as outlined in Matthew 5:14-16:

“You are the light of the world. A city that is set on hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.”

God bless you,

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